Grief and Loss

Grief and loss are not exculisve to any religion or spiritual path, even atheism.

In many cases, the loss of a loved one can bring us closer to our sense of the divine, or remove us from it. We feel we are being punished, or that it is not fair, not right, not just that a loved one is lot to us. These feelings are not wrong, but do they really help in properly grieving for our relative/friend/partner?

Grief can come upon us at any moment. You can be sitting in your car, looking out the window and suddenly you're crying and you're not sure why.

Turning to our spiritual side, rather than pushing it away, can be a comfort. We can explore our feelings, our anrgy, frustration, deep sadness and pain in a way that is comforting and nurturing, rather than feeling abandoned and lost.

Everybody dies. This is the one clear, absolute in life. Everything dies. How that happens varies considerably and we can only hope that when it is the time for ourselves or those we love, it is as painless and quick as possible. When it is not, we are more inclined to anger, blame and frustration.

Lighting a candle for someone who has passed away is a small comfort, an act of love, of hope that they have gone somewhere better and you yourself will carry on. This small and simple act, perhaps accompanied with a small prayer or meditation can be releasing, soothing and very peaceful.

In many cases, it is not until we lose someone very dear that we are drawn to religion/spirituality, as we have never really needed to look below the surface, to delve deeper into the meanings of life and death.

I honestly feel that the divine never shuts ts back on anyone, especially not in times when we need it/them the most.

This is currently something that I am coming to terms with.

Blessed be x